When Madi was 15 months old, we were at a play area and we met a little girl who was 16 months old. This little girl was speaking at a toddler level! She was speaking in almost full sentences and knew her first and last name. At 15 months, Madi could only say “Mama,” “Dada,” “Boo-boo” (her nickname), “toys” and a few body parts. I had never worried about Madi’s speech as I knew that at 15 months she is only expected to have 5 words, so I thought her language development was right on track. However I will say I was very “shook” after meeting that little girl.
Once we got home, I started pointing to multiple objects around the house and tried to quickly improve Madi’s language. Within a week, I realized that I was over-reacting and that each child develops differently and that Madi was exactly where she should be. But it did shake my beliefs on where I thought Madi was on the “child development” spectrum.
Language development and literacy skills (the ability to read and write) in children occurs in stages, over time. It is an ongoing process. It is also normal, to some extent, for each child’s development to occur at different stages, different ages, and in different ways.
You might notice that when you go to your family doctor or pediatrician for a “check-up” that they ask about the abilities of your child to walk, talk, read, write, and do certain tasks. These are known as “developmental milestones.”
If your child is behind some of their peers in language development and literacy, this could be part of their normal development. To some extent, language development happens at each child’s own individual rate.
Important “red-flag” milestones in child language development.
Red flag milestones are developmental milestones that if your child does not reach, this may indicate a delay in development. It is important to be aware of these milestones, so that you can see your doctor if you are worried:
- Difficulty with hearing
- No babbling by 9 months
- No first words by 18 months
- No word 2-combinations by 24 months
- Speech is difficult for parents to understand at 24 months
- Speech is difficult for strangers to understand at 36 months
- Vocabulary is growing very slowly
- Regression or loss of speech
Furthermore, if your child is finding it hard to communicate, is getting frustrated by their communication difficulty, is being teased by peers for talking funny, or avoids having to talk, these could also be signs your child is struggling with language development, and may need to see a doctor.